Life is like a box of chocolates?!?!
Life is like a box of chocolates.
This is one of the infamous quotes from the movie Forrest Gump. I absolutely love this movie! However, today’s post is not about movies but about life. Life is uncertain. Sometimes it is sweet, sometimes it is bitter, sometimes it is smooth, or downright yucky! Comparing life to a box of chocolates is pretty appropriate. If you are like me, you open the box and wonder what is inside each one of those chocolates. You take a bite of the corner to see what it is. Is it cherry cordial? Carmel? Fudge? Or yucky orange cream? You just don’t know until you bite into it. Regardless they are all pretty and packaged in a shimmery heart or beautiful box. Is it deceiving? Some would say yes. Others would say “it’s just the way it is.”
Today my heart is heavy and I have been thinking about life, specifically the last 2 years. My box has been filled with very sweet delicious chocolates, bitter chocolates, and downright yucky chocolates. It’s hard to even write because life has been so jumbled, I don’t even know how to put it on paper. Not all bad, but jumbled. So this morning all kinds of quotes came to my head. But this one stuck. Life is like a box of chocolates.
When 2020 ended, I thought thank gosh! 2021 will be a much better year. Well here we are in July and every time I turn on the news my heart sinks a little more. COVID numbers are rising, mass shootings, young people dying due to drug overdoses. It is so depressing and so very sad. It is like my box is full of orange cream-filled chocolates.
Personally, I have been finding myself. Meaning I left a stable job to travel. I have loved it but it also came with its own set of issues. That is an entirely different blog post! I will keep you posted on that one. But in the past year, I have been in 5 cities. Most of the time without my family and always the new person. It is exciting and scary, and sometimes downright miserable. Here is a blog post from the beginning of my travel adventures.
But I am getting off track. Life is forever changing. Sometimes I feel like we take one step forward and several steps back. We pay off one debt to get another. We mend this fence, only to have someone knock down the whole damn gate. I feel guilty about the decisions I made to travel. I feel guilty about not managing finances better. And I feel guilty about not being here 24/7 for my kids and husband. But then I think, I am an individual also. I am one person. But I can improve and move forward.
So what am I doing to make sure my box of chocolates is full of delicious things?
Life is like a box of chocolates.
- Taking stock.
- Asking for help.
- Making plans.
- Involving those closest to me.
- Holding myself accountable.
Share your box of chocolates with the ones you love
Life is like a box of chocolates. However, I am picking the chocolates I want.
Taking stock. What exactly does that mean? Well for me personally it means looking at the people in my life and the things in my life. Do they or it have a purpose? Do I need it? Is it hindering me? Is it negative? This boils down to basically cleaning out lots of closets, decluttering, and deciding to minimalize THINGS in my life. It also means I am looking at the people in my life. If you are not here for the right reasons, or I feel like I constantly have to prove myself to you, then I don’t need you. Basically, that is it in a nutshell.
Reevaluating. So I am still traveling, however, I am doing it closer to home. I decided to take baby steps with traveling. I do have an enormous bucket list but I also realize I do not have to go to all four corners of the country in one year. I am also reevaluating and mending bridges I may have burned here at home. When I decided to travel, I did it without thinking about the hospital I was leaving behind. That weighs on me heavily.
Asking for help. Aww, this was a hard one. So if you know me, you know I am an impulse buyer. So recently I became very transparent with my husband. I gave him ALL my credit cards. Yes, I said ALL. And today we formulated a plan to put any extra spending on shutdown. Like I am going cold turkey! Bills and essentials will be the only thing I spend money on. Well, this too is a baby step. We are trying it for one week at a time. However, if my calculations are right, these baby steps will equal a LOT of savings.
Making plans. I am not ready to put away my suitcase. I love traveling. I love meeting new people. But now we are making plans for approximately this time next year for my husband to start to travel with me, (maybe). So yes, I am formulating a bucket list, but I am planning it and not just flying off the handle and jumping feet first.
Involving those closest to me. Well, I was completely transparent with my husband and thus as well with my kids. Everything is better when those you love the dearest are in your corner.
Holding myself accountable. This is huge for me. I am sending apology emails to a few managers, making some changes financially, and following a routine that will put my mind and body back in the right place.
Sharing. This blog is sharing. Talking to God is sharing. These two things I will start to do a lot more often.
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