How to let go of growing kids
How to Let Go of Growing Kids
Do you have kids that are grown or almost grown? Do you ever feel like what the hell, what happened, they were just 6 years old and eating popsicles and fishing??? Well dear readers I am in that stage of life. My oldest is 21 and she is grown into a beautiful young adult with such an amazing future ahead of her and my youngest baby is 17. He is finding his way and passionate and doesn’t always need his momma. They both are still at home (Thank GOODNESS)! So my dilemma is letting go of growing kids. How do we still parent without being overbearing? Why is it I still worry about them constantly and secretly wait until they get home to make sure they made it home? Does this ever get easier? I am going to go out on a limb here and say probably not. I imagine as they grow and go places in life, we parents will just find new things to worry about. So I am going to post a few quotes, bible verses, and even a story that has helped me during this stage. Hope you find something here that helps you as well!
HOW TO LET GO OF GROWING KIDS
We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone todayStacia Tauscher
Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.Anne Frank
Train up a child in the way that he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.Proverbs 22:6
HOW TO HANDLE EMPTY NEST
- Pray for them
- Provide a refuge for them
- Provide a safe place to fail
- Provide advice when asked
- Develop a new relationship with them and embrace it
- Talk to them about God and encourage them to pray and seek His advice
- Enjoy your new and changed life
- Spend time reconnecting with your spouse
- Self-care (because for years we neglected this)
- HAVE EVERLASTING FAITH
The bible says â€œLook at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you [and your children] not much more valuable than they?â€ Matthew 6:26.
How to let go of growing kids is a real struggle but can also be very rewarding. Try not to think about them flying the nest but what they are becoming. You raised independent, strong, beautiful adults. I remember every moment of being a parent. One particular memory of my daughter, Katie, was when I let her do a homemade zipline at a family gathering. She was only about 3 or 4 years old. She was so excited to do this zipline. I was a nervous wreck and kept insisting to my husband that it was not a good idea. He didn’t listen and proceeded to put her on this zip line and told her to hold on. He let her go and I watched in fear at the other end as she flew down this line. Her eyes were so wide and she looked so scared. My heart dropped and I just knew she was going to get off this zip line and start crying. As soon as she landed she ran to her dad and squaled “do it again, do it again!”
A recent memory of my son, Jesse, was when he told me he was going to ride a bull. I flat out refused and caused quite a stink! I “put my foot down” and gave him all kinds of ultimatums. He kept on insisting and I finally gave in. Well the first time he rode I sat in the stands with tears in my eyes. All I could think was, how brave he was. How much courage does it take to get on a huge bull? A lot, and my son did it and continues to do it!
You can say I am quite biased and love my kids more than anything. I am so proud of who they are and what they are becoming. So I will keep praying for their safety, my sanity, and always provide a safe place for them to land.